Our Blind Spots
We all have blind spots.

When I was single, people would say, you’re too intense.
That intimidates men.
I actually tried to entertain being “less intense”. LOL
You all might imagine how that might have looked.
Some of you know me from way back when and remember what I was like when I was single.
Those memories make me smile now, but it was excruciating to me then.
I felt like I was forever cursed to want men that didn’t want me back.
Then, one day, my therapist called out me on my bull shit. 

She said, “the only common denominator that I see in all of these disappointing relationships is YOU.”.
I was horrified! “Moi?” 

Oh yeah, she certainly did mean me as she stared right back firmly into my WTF eyes.
Oh shit, I thought. What if she’s right? 

Then she asked me the perfect clarifying question.
“What if Mr. Wonderful walked through the door right at this moment and said, “here I am, Nora!”
I froze in fear! 

My logical self was like, “wait, your scared of mr. wonderful, not possible”.
And my emotional self was like: “fuck yeah, I am! Run for the hills!”
Thus became my window of opportunity to get really honest with myself. Something I had previously been unable to do.
To really honestly get to know what I truly want in my life and relationships.
Not manifesting the relationship I thought I wanted or that society and family might have wanted.
Sure, most of me wanted it. For a variety of reasons.
But there was that deeply emotional, other part of me that was terrified and totally NOT READY to be in a relationship.












I did that for 3 years.

I didn’t do anything magical, I just decided that all of me was ready.
It didn’t happen over night, but…







In love, career, parenthood, finances…. EVERYTHING.





