|Are you in the ‘therapist’ relationship in your relationships?
Do you find that when the going get’s tough, your peep’s come to you?
Healers and seekers can often find themselves in that kind of situation in friendships, or even in romantic partnerships.
I myself, find myself in these types of friendships often. I find it very rewarding and fulfilling to have friendships where I can be leaned on to process difficult issues and to hold space while my friends navigate what they’re going through.
This is fabulous until you consider balance!
There can be 2 BIG elements of imbalance when experiencing the majority of relationships from this angle.
1) The friend that you are being therapist to, might not be able to be that therapist friend back to you.
While you’ve been ever present for your friend, they may not have that same capacity to be your therapist.
Friends that need a lot of support may not have the ability to reciprocate. And that is ok! And you get to want and have friends that can hold space for you in that way.
2) Don’t be surprised when your chips are down, the friend you are therapist to is miffed by your ‘neediness’.
When the tables turn, your friend may feel like you’ve suddenly shown up in a way that is unacceptable to them.
If you have divine balance in a friendship, that is wonderful, but if you don’t, consider that the relationship balance maybe an inside job.
What to do: Acknowledge your unmet need and really take an inventory on what you would like to draw forth in a friendship and then watch the magnificence of the universe deliver your sacred balanced dynamic to you.
This shift could take place in the original relationship, or you might meet the perfect counterpart to lean on. Someone who has different insight than you. One that opens your heart, and feels like a safe place to land.
You deserve it!